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doodlesanddiscord:

spaceadmiraldee:

Today I want to talk about Polyamory because it’s something that gets brushed over and ignored quite a lot. It is also often misunderstood and seen as identical to patriarchal polygamy, and many polyamorous individuals are shamed for it.

Let’s start with what Polyamory IS. A polyamorous individual practices, desires, or accepts having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This is NOT the same as someone who cheats on their partner. It is also distinct from swinging which emphasizes sex with others as recreational only.

Polyamory is also not the same as having commitment issues. Polyamerous individuals are fully committed to all of their partners, or to a single partner while still holding feelings for other people.

Polyamorous individuals are legitimately in love with more than one person. To them, love is not a limited commodity - in other words, they are capable of wholeheartedly loving multiple people at once. They also go against the idea that love is “scarce” and that a person can only have “one true love.” [Source] To a polyamorous person, love is abundant and unrestricted in this way.

Polyamory is in essence on the opposite end of the spectrum from aromanticism, and while how a polyamorous individual chooses to act on their feelings is within their own control, they are no more capable of not being polyamorous emotionally than an aromantic individual is capable of forcing themselves to have romantic feelings. Romantic orientation is a real thing, no more controllable than sexual orientation.

Again, it must be stressed that romantic orientation toward multiple people and cheating do not go hand in hand. Cheating is an act of breaching the trust in a relationship. Polyamory is cheating only when it’s non-consensual or multiple relationships exist without the knowledge of one or more significant others.

Kinds of Polyamorous Relationships Include:

-Polyfidelity: multiple romantic relationships with sexual contact restricted to only specific partners in the group

-Sub-Relationships: distinctions are made between primary and secondary relationships (e.g. most open marriages)

-Triad Relationships: three people who are romantically involved

-Quad Relationships: usually a relationship between a couple and another cuple

-Polygamyin which one person marries several spouses (who may or may not be married to, or have romantic relationships with, one another)

-Mono/Poly Relationshipswhere one partner is monogamous but agrees to the other having outside relationships

-Open Relationshipswhere participants may have sexual liaisons with others not within their core group of partners. Note that some open relationships may be open only sexually, while exclusive emotionally, or even vice-versa

In all of these examples, note once again that informed consent is key in all polyamorous relationship forms.

Polyamorous groups have attempted to define a set of values for polyamorous relationships. These stress that fidelity is faithfulness to the promises and agreements made about a relationship (a secret sexual relationship that violates those accords would be seen as a breach of fidelity); emphasize respect, trust, and honesty for all partners; polyamorists often advocate explicitly negotiating with all involved to establish the terms of their relationships, and often emphasize that this should be an ongoing process of honest communication and respectpoly relationships often involve establishing specific boundaries, or “ground rules” (for instance, consultation about new relationships); gender equality is also a common value as many polyamorists do not believe in different relationship “rules” based on gender, a point of contrast with some forms of religious non-monogamy which are often patriarchically based; and finally, most polyamorous individuals and their partners place value on non-possessiveness, viewing excessive restrictions on other deep relationships as less than desirable, as such restrictions can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control. [Source]

Like other sexual minorities and members of the LGBTQIAP community, polyamorous people face discrimination, misunderstanding, hatred, and contempt on a regular basis.

I suspect no one will reblog this because people don’t seem to give a shit about anyone besides the LG in LGBTQIAP. But these people exist and they matter and they are seriously discriminated against.

Having marriages with multiple partners is illegal in most places and polyamorous people are near-constantly called “sluts” and generally shamed for their feelings.

Having multiple consensual relationships doesn’t harm anyone. It doesn’t somehow ruin the sanctity of your monogamous relationship or marriage.

There’s also a huge historical precedent for polyamory.

In China, “traditional culture does not prohibit or explicitly encourage polygyny (one man, multiple women)” and “polyandry, the practice of one woman having multiple husbands, is traditionally considered by the majority Han as immoral,” however, “amongst other Chinese ethnicities polyandry existed and exists especially in mountainous areas.” [Source]

North American Tribal marriage practices vary from tribe to tribe, but the majority of tribes practice some form of polygyny. All sexual practices can be found throughout the tribes, including polygny, polyandry, wife-swapping, premarital sex, extramarital sex, and monogamy, however it is rare that monogamy is the sole sexual practice found in any given tribe." [Source]

And when I studied Viking Age Scandinavia for my history thesis, I came across many instances of polyamorous relationships which were totally acceptable until the adoption of Christianity (and even persisted for some time after it, infuriating Church leaders).

If you’re interested in polyamorous relationships, Robert Heinlein’s 1961 book “Stranger in a Strange Land" is a highly influential work that depicts plural partnerships.

theshadowstudio:

The Shadow Studio’s Shadowbox Pendant Giveaway!

For this giveaway, I will be selecting three lucky winners, who will get silhouette pendants from The Shadow Studio! Make sure that you check out my Etsy shop to see all of the options I have available that are not included in the photoset! Here are the prizes:

  • The First Place Winner will receive one of my new Shadowbox Pendants, containing two tiny, hand-cut silhouettes of their choice - one on each side of the reversible pendant.
  • The Second and Third Place Winners will each receive their choice of any one classic oval or heart silhouette pendant offered in my Etsy shop.

Rules:

  • You must be following The Shadow Studio on Tumblr.
  • Your ask box must be open so I can contact you if you win.
  • I will ship internationally.
  • No giveaway blogs.
  • Likes and reblogs count (but please don’t spam your followers)!
  • The contest will run from 4/18/2014 - 5/16/2014 at 11:59 pm PST.
  • Winners will be selected using random.org.
theofficialariel:

hella-nick:

bringindanoiz:

angel-of-devils:

izzayronii:

babytaeminlove:

hewasthedrummer:

lindseyway:

Story goes that this entity is the most evil known out there and it seems to seek people of all ages that do not reblog this. The name non-tumblr users have already been killed and you’re next.
That is, if you reblog this, he’ll let you live. Now, do it. My friend Katy didn’t know how to reblog and within the hour, she died. I warned her but she didn’t

ok tumblr srsly i fucking hate you but that fucking picture ok i’ll reblog this

fuckfuckfuckfuck

this is just so i can sleep alright tonight…

I’m a lil bitch, ok??

This thing looks like thE CHOCOLATE LADy from spongebob

CHOCOLATE

I remember when they invented chocolate. 
I always hated it. 

theofficialariel:

hella-nick:

bringindanoiz:

angel-of-devils:

izzayronii:

babytaeminlove:

hewasthedrummer:

lindseyway:

Story goes that this entity is the most evil known out there and it seems to seek people of all ages that do not reblog this. The name non-tumblr users have already been killed and you’re next.

That is, if you reblog this, he’ll let you live. Now, do it. My friend Katy didn’t know how to reblog and within the hour, she died. I warned her but she didn’t

ok tumblr srsly i fucking hate you but that fucking picture ok i’ll reblog this

fuckfuckfuckfuck

this is just so i can sleep alright tonight…

I’m a lil bitch, ok??

This thing looks like thE CHOCOLATE LADy from spongebob

CHOCOLATE

I remember when they invented chocolate. 

I always hated it. 

doctorthefourth asked:

gallifreyanxromana answered:

My muse and your muse switch bodies! Twist is, they can now access each other’s memories.

How it happened, she wasn’t sure, but she did know that she woke up as the very same man she was traveling with. From the moment she looked in the mirror, she became terrified. It wasn’t her body, she didn’t want to live as him, as bad as that sounded. She had his memories, she could see everything he went through, and that meant he had her memories. He’d know about her father, about her childhood, and she couldn’t let that happened. “Doctor!” Romana shouted, running through the TARDIS, trying to find him. “Whatever you do, don’t remember!” 

gallifreyanxromana:

"You’re so awkward," she commented, watching how he reacted with her body. It was understandable, she felt the same way, but it was amusing to watch. It was as if he didn’t know what he was dealing with, though that certainly couldn’t have been quite right. "Just stop thinking about being inside of my body, that’s what I’m doing." And it wasn’t quite working, but she managed. 

"Fine," she nodded her head. Honestly, she didn’t want to know everything he did. It was too much work. "Just let me know why you chose this scarf first." She muttered, throwing the other end over her shoulder, letting it fall behind her.

At his request, she sat down, crossing one leg over the other. 

He shrugged, still testing out his current body, how it was different, how it moved, felt.
"I’m trying, really, I am" he commented. "But it is rather easier said than done to stop thinking about it".
He leaned over her, now having to lean less than he would have, ordinarily, and took the scarf, gingerly, off her shoulders, and placed it around his own neck. Looking back at her, it seemed odd to see himself without the scarf, but then, it was no less odd looking at her only to see himself staring back at him.
He watched her sit, in a way he found odd to see himself sit, then he sat next to her, trying to think of what could have caused this. He could change them back, if he knew the cause, he thought. Most likely, anyways.
On the counter and through a few drawers he rumaged, while sitting, gathering a few things.
"I need to find the cause. To do that, I will have to do a few experiments. See if something seems different, or amiss" he started, pulling out a small needle. First, a blood sample, he thought handing her one, and drawing out a bit of his own.
What had she meant, by don’t think, don’t remember, he wondered?

strangely-poetic:

strangely-poetic:

PLEASE READ, POSSIBLE VIRUS GOING AROUND
Okay, so this is the 2nd time that I’ve gotten this message. At first I was like “Oh yeah its just someone who’s trying to get themselves promoted or something but then I got this again and it doesn’t seem right because they changed their name to Victoria suddenly??? When I first got it it was Nathaly but this could be a virus I have no clue, I never went to the website or their tumblr because I don’t want to get any possible viruses on my computer so I might be wrong but just in case please reblog it because I don’t want anyone to get any viruses. If I’m wrong then please tell me and I’ll take this down but for now please reblog this, thank you!

UPDATE: Yeah it’s virus blogs. I’ve gotten them from two different people and their title was the same. One was “Beautiful Landscapes” and the other was “Beautiful Tattoos” and so yeah reblog this really fast before anyone gets the virus ok thanks again. The first blog that sent me this was zinokmass so watch out for zinokmass and labagaww thank you guys so much ignore the message if you get it

Got one from christinedreaming.

strangely-poetic:

strangely-poetic:

PLEASE READ, POSSIBLE VIRUS GOING AROUND

Okay, so this is the 2nd time that I’ve gotten this message. At first I was like “Oh yeah its just someone who’s trying to get themselves promoted or something but then I got this again and it doesn’t seem right because they changed their name to Victoria suddenly??? When I first got it it was Nathaly but this could be a virus I have no clue, I never went to the website or their tumblr because I don’t want to get any possible viruses on my computer so I might be wrong but just in case please reblog it because I don’t want anyone to get any viruses. If I’m wrong then please tell me and I’ll take this down but for now please reblog this, thank you!

UPDATE: Yeah it’s virus blogs. I’ve gotten them from two different people and their title was the same. One was “Beautiful Landscapes” and the other was “Beautiful Tattoos” and so yeah reblog this really fast before anyone gets the virus ok thanks again. The first blog that sent me this was zinokmass so watch out for zinokmass and labagaww thank you guys so much ignore the message if you get it

Got one from christinedreaming.

strangely-poetic:

strangely-poetic:

PLEASE READ, POSSIBLE VIRUS GOING AROUND
Okay, so this is the 2nd time that I’ve gotten this message. At first I was like “Oh yeah its just someone who’s trying to get themselves promoted or something but then I got this again and it doesn’t seem right because they changed their name to Victoria suddenly??? When I first got it it was Nathaly but this could be a virus I have no clue, I never went to the website or their tumblr because I don’t want to get any possible viruses on my computer so I might be wrong but just in case please reblog it because I don’t want anyone to get any viruses. If I’m wrong then please tell me and I’ll take this down but for now please reblog this, thank you!

UPDATE: Yeah it’s virus blogs. I’ve gotten them from two different people and their title was the same. One was “Beautiful Landscapes” and the other was “Beautiful Tattoos” and so yeah reblog this really fast before anyone gets the virus ok thanks again. The first blog that sent me this was zinokmass so watch out for zinokmass and labagaww thank you guys so much ignore the message if you get it

strangely-poetic:

strangely-poetic:

PLEASE READ, POSSIBLE VIRUS GOING AROUND

Okay, so this is the 2nd time that I’ve gotten this message. At first I was like “Oh yeah its just someone who’s trying to get themselves promoted or something but then I got this again and it doesn’t seem right because they changed their name to Victoria suddenly??? When I first got it it was Nathaly but this could be a virus I have no clue, I never went to the website or their tumblr because I don’t want to get any possible viruses on my computer so I might be wrong but just in case please reblog it because I don’t want anyone to get any viruses. If I’m wrong then please tell me and I’ll take this down but for now please reblog this, thank you!

UPDATE: Yeah it’s virus blogs. I’ve gotten them from two different people and their title was the same. One was “Beautiful Landscapes” and the other was “Beautiful Tattoos” and so yeah reblog this really fast before anyone gets the virus ok thanks again. The first blog that sent me this was zinokmass so watch out for zinokmass and labagaww thank you guys so much ignore the message if you get it

theshadowstudio:

The Shadow Studio’s Shadowbox Pendant Giveaway!

For this giveaway, I will be selecting three lucky winners, who will get silhouette pendants from The Shadow Studio! Make sure that you check out my Etsy shop to see all of the options I have available that are not included in the photoset! Here are the prizes:

  • The First Place Winner will receive one of my new Shadowbox Pendants, containing two tiny, hand-cut silhouettes of their choice - one on each side of the reversible pendant.
  • The Second and Third Place Winners will each receive their choice of any one classic oval or heart silhouette pendant offered in my Etsy shop.

Rules:

  • You must be following The Shadow Studio on Tumblr.
  • Your ask box must be open so I can contact you if you win.
  • I will ship internationally.
  • No giveaway blogs.
  • Likes and reblogs count (but please don’t spam your followers)!
  • The contest will run from 4/18/2014 - 5/16/2014 at 11:59 pm PST.
  • Winners will be selected using random.org.

Acceptable reasons to get a tattoo!!!!

darthclarke:

luv-disc:

  • in memory of a deceased loved one
  • because you happened to pass by a tattoo shop
  • because it is your favorite quote
  • because it’s from your favorite TV show
  • to show dedication to your romantic partner
  • because you liked the design
  • because it has a deep meaning to you
  • because you were young and stupid
  • because you fucking wanted to.

Fucking this